Are you trying to help or score some points?
Seek conflict to understand others. In it you may find gaps in your own perspectives and grow. But acting solely challenge their view is being a jerk.
Conflict compounds.
Don’t avoid confrontation because it’s uncomfortable. It creates baggage.
Conflict is a crisis of identity.
We don’t want to feel weak, stupid or wrong. To break conflict we must understand how our actions attack the way others perceive themselves as.
Promote responsibility.
Don’t blame others. Blame is definitive. It’s saying someone is wrong. Promoting responsibility is making people aware of their actions and what it means to those around them.
See negotiation